What is it you stand for, believe in, epitomize? Who are you truly? And in what way is your truth represented? As a therapist I find myself in places with clients whose challenge is in speaking their truth, then living in accordance with what they desire. The challenge for me is in asking myself: “is what I am asking my client to do, something that I could, and would do given the circumstances they describe.” Do I live vicariously through my clients, or is what I offer authentic, in that what I express is not only something I have done and transcended, but something I would also do again when dealing with situations that breed personal dysfunction, or no longer benefit me. More often than not I find that the universe brings to us through people’s circumstances and current situations experiences that sometimes mirror exactly where we are within our own process as therapists. Forcing us to take a look at what we hide within our own closets for cleaning, repair, or extraction. It’s similar to a checks and balance system, where the client inadvertently pushes the therapist within the relationship to examine aspects within our own lives that maintain stagnancy. As we move clients toward change, sometimes we are verbalizing the very things we find difficult to change in our own lives & relationships that we are not taking responsibility for. Because we are truly reflections of one another it’s never a coincidence when someone comes to me with an issue I am personally working to resolve. The beauty of it is that the therapeutic relationship forces even therapists to continually work on the issues associated with us as clinicians living our own truths. I find this is always the irony of therapy, with clinicians as “helpers!” We continue to “help” ourselves, as clients shed light for us on those things we are challenged by at times. Which is in many ways is a gift, as we acknowledge what needs to change personally for our own growth.
At the end of the day, we are all just people touched by life. Continually working to make sense of the pain and struggle we face brought about by the human experience aka: LIFE! All we have is relationship, with ourselves and others. With that said, exercising the ability to live life in a way that exemplifies not only what you say, but is followed by action and void of the hypocrisy, the dichotomy of real you vs. fake you, is what it will take to favorably live your truth. Is'nt that what we all aspire to?!
It's important to remember that being in the helping profession is a big responsibility that requires continued personal work so that we can offer our very best to both ourselves, then others seeking our assistance. Identifying our own truth allows for us to live that truth, fully.
Best wishes on the path.